Dear Little –
When you get mad at us – screaming, ragey anger, and think that we are just the worst parents in the history of all time, just think it could have been worse.
We could have named you #Hashtag.
Hey Tater Tot –
A few things you need to know this month. You are freakishly long. You outgrew all of your 3 month clothes by the time you were 2 and a half months old. But, you are thin as a rail. We know where you get The Skinny: we don’t know where you get The Tall. Actually, that’s a lie. My mom, sister and brother are all quite tall. I am not, but you are. At this rate, you’ll be taller than me by the time you’re 7, especially if I start shrinking.
You are also smiling up a storm! You giggle now, where as before you would just sit there and give monosyllabic noises. You are no longer content laying in the rocking swing – you now want to come along wherever we go. If I go to the kitchen, you have to come along in a carrier or lay on your play-mat.
Your hair is RED. Before it was red, but now it’s RED. You have a mullet, and a mohawk, and have gone bald on the sides, which has exposed a large birthmark on the back of your head that looks like a giant bruise. So, in the event you shave your head in a rebellious fit at 16, you’ve been warned.
Your snoring is adorable. Your cooing is adorable. Your screaming for no reason is not so adorable, but we’re working on it. You still sleep through the night (whew!) so it’s totally worth you having an hour or two a day where you let it all out because we’re two very lucky parents who get more than 6 hours of sleep a night. Thank you for that!
So that’s it for now. Nothing too deep, no lessons learned or advice. Just a quick “this is how you are at this point in time” post.
Dear Little –
You were born almost three months ago. Today, history was made, but first, let me fill you in on a little back story.
In 2008, Barack Obama was elected president by a landslide. He was the first African American president for our country. In the first two years, he moved a nation to vote, stopped this country from economic collapse, saved the U.S. automobile industry from going bankrupt, reformed health care in what will likely be the closest thing to universal health care that this country will have during my lifetime, put two women on the Supreme Court (numbers 3 and 4 in history), and ordered Seal Team Six to kill Osama Bin Laden.
In 2012, after a very difficult, challenging, gruesome political battle, he won re-election. This is his victory speech. It’s 20 minutes long, but it’s historic.
It’s important for you to know that the year you were born, many women still weren’t getting paid for equal work. An entire group of people still can’t get married because laws exist to discriminate against our LGBT brothers and sisters. However, it’s also important to note that it IS getting better.
In this election, Massachusetts (where you were born) elected it’s first woman to the US Senate, Elizabeth Warren. Maine (where I grew up) was one of two states to vote for the rights of same sexed couples to marry. Wisconsin elected it’s first openly lesbian senator. I bring this up only to show you that in 2012, we as women still have a long way to go. People who identify as LGBT are finally getting the rights they should have had all along. As my friend Ken said:
We have been publicly fighting this battle since that fateful morning on June 28th 1969 when gays, lesbians and friends refused to tolerate the inequality from the police and stood up for their rights. There is still so much work that needs to be done in order to have full equality under the law, but last night was affirmation that we are moving closer to the dream that many have had for decades that one day, in the near future, gays and lesbians will be allowed the same treatment as those around us.
I hope that someday, you’ll look back at this post and say “Wow. There was a time that women, gays, and minorities were held back? We’ve come so far, and yet, there is still so much work to be done.” I hope that you find this utterly absurd and archaic, in the same way that I look back at the Civil Rights movement of the 1960’s and think “Wow. African Americans couldn’t drink at the same water fountain? That’s absurd – what was this country thinking! We’ve come so far, and there is still so much to do.” There are many points in our history where I look back in shame, but also pride. Shameful that we discriminate, but pride that we are making strides to make it better.
I don’t just vote for me and my age group anymore. I voted this time with you in mind (and strapped to my chest. Thankfully you didn’t cry or fuss. You slept through your first election). I voted for the candidates that I felt would hopefully level the playing field for you, and look out for the little guys.